It's still fresh in our mind about Arie Power, teenage boy who 'kidnapped' or simply brought his '15 years old wifey' home, and it made the girl's parents went nuts and called the police because the little girl hasn't returned home since she left to meet the boy. And today, I was appalled by a friend's tweets saying that her 15 years old cousin is pregnant after meeting the boy she met on Facebook. It was suspected as a date rape, but I don't think it's a date rape if the girl was okay doing it. For me, it ain't a rape if both parties agree to get laid.And it bugs me an awful lot when people throw a comment that those who have premarital sex is bloody sinful. I think lust is a matter of hormones system, it has nothing to do with faith, religion, or whatsoever. How about a preacher raping an underage girl? Does it show a lack of morals or self-control? There is no correlation between sex and religion. Yet indeed, religion manages sex and stuff with its' very own discourses as written in the bible. But still, it doesn't mean that someone who always pray like five times a day, read the holy bible every single night, be a good peaceful human-being (as being told by the bible), couldn't be a pervert as well!
Back to the teenagers who are so much clueless yet curious about sex, how would us then prevent our kids or our little teenage brother/sister/cousin/niece/nephew from doing harmful thing like sex. Why I said that sex is harmful for teenagers? Well, based on what I've learned from school, teenagers (13 - 18 years old) are not physically/biologically ready to have sex. Their reproductive system doesn't work as perfectly as adults'. It's fine to merely kiss and/or fool around with their partner but it's not fine to have sex, especially without protection. Period!
It's ironic how people always tend to blame their parents for not guiding them well enough, or not feeding them with religion-based education or stuff like that. As in my statement above, when it comes to sex there's nothing to do with religion and such. And one more thing to be reconsidered about, kids and teenagers are still innocent no matter how bad they behave. They're still in the state of learning about every single thing from learning about life and environment, to learning about themselves. As we all know, there's always trial and error in learning and that's so natural. We, adults (not only parents), should guide and serve them with the best knowledge and don't forget to be supportive to them. Hiding something by not telling them the truth and facts will only make them close to errors.
I know I'm don't have enough capacity to ramble about this, therefore I should cut it before I write more errors here. For the point of what I'm trying to say is, giving them (the clueless-yet-so-much-curious-about-sex teenage kids) so much craps about religion, bad vs good thing to do, heaven vs hell, saint vs sin, and stuff like that WOULD NOT make them lose their interest in sex. Stop making sex as a taboo thing to be discussed about. And I constantly think that schools need to give early sex education to teenage kids since they must have loads of problem and questions about sex regarding their puberty. I'm not an expert so don't ask me for solution. This is all I can say.
Signing off now. Have a nice day! :)
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5 comments:
my Chekka dear,
gw sedikit banyak jd mengerti setelah mengalami kejadian sendiri wlpun bukan sekandung tp dia adalah my lovely lil cousin..lumayan deket wlpun jarang sekali ktemu..
mslh yg paling terlihat disini krn dia gak tgl sm orgtuanya, tp tinggal dgn tantenya, dengan lingkungan yg sgt kurang perhatian, sekolahnya jg sekolah yg bs dibilang tmpt produksi besar alay2 di selatan..
jd diambil dr sedikit fakta itu, jd gue msh beranggapan keberadaan org tua disamping kita sgtlah penting,aplg di masa2 pertumbuhan yg mentalnya sgt liar mencari perhatian seluruh dunia, kalau buat agama yah mgkn itu pendukung aja kali yah..kalo usia dini agama msh jd kaya, agamaku adalah agama orangtuaku , belom dalem bener..dan emang gue setuju yg paling penting adalah SEX education yg bener2 secara detail dijelasin..nah yg ky gini kan pembekalan ke org tua jg penting..sayangnya org tua di Indonesia semua msh tergolong kaku n menganggap SEX hanya urusan org dewasa..dan melihat dr keluarga gue yg kaya gitu jg,,kynya gue sbagai yg muda & berbahaya yg harus ajarin ke mereka ttg itu..sebelum sepupu2 yg lain kena musibah lagi..
anyway..
more or less what u've written has inspired me..at least i have plan for this saturday, i will gather my other lil cousins who are now still in elementary to give them kind of presentation bout SEX EDUCATION..
u know..it can be more serious than that..this calamity has changed my view..
i don't want it happen to others..:) tks for ur contribution bout this topic, i'm on my own research bout this!
dear chekka, pas kuliah gw bikin skripsi ttg perempempuan yang melakukan hubungan seks pranikah.
hanya karena mereka telah melakukan, tidak berarti mereka sebenarnya ingin melakukan hal itu.
kadang banyak hal yang membuat mereka terpaksa melakukannya, diluar dari faktor ekonomi (karena kalau ada faktor ekonomi bahasannya udah beda).
i havent uplod my undergraduated thesis yet, but i really disagree with u that saying "kalau perempuannya mau, itu bukan date rape"
kadang perempuan diposisikan tidak berani menolak, bukan tidak bisa. dan kadang kata kata TIDAK yang diucapkan perempuan sering dianggap lalu oleh laki laki.
nice post, still. ve a nice day chekka
agree with you. I dont think sex before marriage is a crap thing and I dont think it related to religions at all.
Ngerasa lebay kalo ada orang ml sblum erid itu gk blh. Apa bedanya dgn ciuman, sma-sma kontak fisik kok. Gak ada yg dirugikan. Selama m.l nya itu pakai kondom atau pake cara gimn spy gak hamil diluar nikah.
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